Thursday, November 17, 2011

Trick your kid to stop whining

A guaranteed annoyance every parent encounters is persistent whining. It is after all, a time-honored kid communication ploy. Why do they use this tactic? Well, simply to toy with your emotions. Here are some tips to counter excessive whining…

Kids are a lot smarter than you give them credit for. They know very well that you react to their crying, so whining about something might just get them some results since you want them to be quiet most of the time.

Read on for some tips on how to make your child see that there is a better alternative to ask for things instead of whining. Point out to them that whining isn’t acceptable in your household.

Tips to counter whining

You need to teach your child to ask for things politely from an early age. This means saying “please” is more effective than whining and wailing. Thank your kid and praise him for doing this well—“Thank you for asking so nicely.”

Commands like “Stop whining” are pretty much useless. Instead, you can say, “Sweetie, just ask. You know I don’t like it when you whine.”

Train your child to be self-sufficient—“If you really want something then go and get it if you can.” This will teach them to be independent.

Never respond in a frustrated or angry tone. Why? Because this is the very behaviour you are trying to fix—an adult version of whining.

When your kid starts whining you can whine back teasingly. When your kid sees this, coupled with the absurdity of seeing a parent whining, he will realize that whining is actually a silly thing that gets you nowhere. Reverse psychology baby!

Another thing you can do is pretend that the whining is actually coming from a really small animal making a noise—hidden somewhere. Go like” “Hey, did you hear something– that whining noise? Sounds like it is coming from you. But it can’t be because you know not to whine when you are asking for something. I’m sure you’d say please and ask in a normal voice, so there must be a baby hippo or a puppy in your shirt pocket. Let’s find it.”

Make it interesting, we’ll teach you the “The Whining Jar” trick. First, you take a jar and label it “The Whining Jar”. Let your kid get creative and involved by making him draw on the label. Put 10 to 20 small items that your kid likes in the jar—stickers, sweets, plastic animals, balls, toys and such. Then tell your child that for every day that goes by without whining, he will be rewarded by being able to pick something from the jar. Just replenish the jar when it gets low.

Remember this; never give in to a whine just because you’re fed up of hearing it. Then you’d just be sending your kid the wrong message, that whining is acceptable in getting what you want. Just ignore the whining until he gets tired of his own voice and stops voluntarily.

詩歌-回家 [歌詞]

快樂精彩回家 將傷痛放下看透俗世謊話迷失漆黑中 
祂總把你念掛回家 即使新世代全然皆冰冷在這屋裡 
有主的愛 別再怕但願讓你知道 
快樂精彩回家 將傷痛放下看透俗世謊話迷失漆黑中 
祂總把你念掛回家 即使新世代全然皆冰冷在這屋裡 
有主的愛 別再怕回家 
祂總把你念掛回家 即使新世代全然皆冰冷在這屋裡 
有主的愛 別再怕在這屋裡 
有主的愛 不要害怕

Thursday, November 3, 2011











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‘Help Me Pray, Holy Spirit’

Jude 1:20

But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit,

When my daughter Jessica was little, she woke up one night crying. She was not sick, but would not stop crying even though her mother and I tried to pacify her. I did not know what to do. I went to the restroom, sat on the floor and cried out, “Holy Spirit, You know what is wrong with my child. You know what she needs better than I do, so I yield her to You now.” I started praying in tongues and she stopped crying immediately!

Now, I wish that such instantaneous results are the norm, but they are not. On another occasion, I experienced severe pain from the back of my neck to my shoulders. I prayed for healing, but the pain persisted for quite some time and I was quite concerned.

One night, in my room, I knelt down and prayed, “Holy Spirit, You know this condition. I don’t know what it is, but I am asking You to make perfect prayer against this condition.” I started praying in tongues. I don’t know how long I prayed, maybe an hour or so, until I felt the burden lift. I finally fell asleep, still in pain. But when I woke up, all the pain was gone!

When you are faced with a crisis, you can tell the Holy Spirit, “I don’t know how to pray about this problem. I have done everything I know, but I don’t seem to be getting my breakthrough. Help me pray, Holy Spirit.”

And as you pray in the Spirit, you will feel like there is a prayer going on within you. Flow with it until you feel a release. You will feel peace, the burden lifting and a note of victory inside you. The Holy Spirit will assure you that everything is going to be all right or He will prompt you to do something. Then, you will find that what has been hindering you from receiving your breakthrough is removed, and in its place is the answer you need!